WARNING: Post may be controversial and is of mature content. Not intended for children.
“Why do you think it is that the dividing line between pro-life and pro-choice is so often religion? I mean, if we all can agree that murder is wrong –“
“—Psalm 139. ‘For you created my inmost being; you knit me together in my mother’s womb… Your eyes saw my unformed body; all the days ordained for me were written in your book
before one of them came to be.’ I think that would very clearly give you the impression that God’s already creating and sculpting who you are while you’re still in the womb.”
This is the simple exchange between my brother and I that sparked an even bigger conversation. (**Dialogue may have been slightly altered for format purposes.**)
If you are a religious person, or you have a biblical foundation, you may be able to come up with half a dozen scriptures or sermons that explain your position. If you have a stronger background in logic or education, you may have scientific studies you’d rather quote to support your opinions. I, however, approach the question in an entirely different manner. I look at this complex and controversial issue from a societal point of view.
We live in a society where people scarcely live up to responsibility. We live in a society who acts first and thinks later. (If they ever even bother to think at all.) I believe that sex is one of the first of the most basic personal responsibilities that society has failed to treat as such. We, as a society, have a tendency to approach sex as purely a form of passion, pleasure, romance, or sadly enough – rehab. Society will try to tell you to make it spontaneous to make it more “romantic,” or to use each other to make ourselves feel better, and by doing that you fail to consider all that could come from it. Married or unmarried – whatever your personal beliefs are – you have to consider every possible outcome and understand that if everything doesn’t go according to plan, you will be held responsible for your actions. There will likely be relational fall out with your partner, and there is potential for pregnancy or disease that you will also have to face if necessary.
I think what we should be bringing to the table when addressing today’s youth is not an elaborate debate of pro-life vs. pro-choice, but explaining that sex is a responsibility by explaining (a.) all that can come from sex; physically, emotionally, mentally, relationally, and societally, if we’re being honest (b.) how to prevent those thing from happening, and including abstinence as a strongly encouraged option (c.) that nothing (except abstinence) is fool-proof and once you make your decision to have sex, you will be held responsible for anything that comes from it.
Who remembers President Obama’s famous “I don’t want them punished with a baby” speech from 2008?! (https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=jszkPtsFH-k) That was really a gem. He starts out by saying “I’m going to teach them, first of all, about values and morals…” but he then goes on to use the term “punished with a baby.” I don’t know what he teaches his girls, but my father instilled in me certain values and morals that tell me that a human life is never a punishment; it’s something to be celebrated no matter what the circumstance. People make mistakes, but what comes from them isn’t always a punishment; but it is certainly a responsibility. If you make a “mistake” that has no fall out or repercussions, what tells you it’s a mistake?
We need to start approaching sex with the understanding that it is a responsibility.
Societally, another thing that concerns me is what I like to call the “slippery slope effect.” I believe that in the world we live in, nothing can ever be as simple as the here and now. There is always a slippery slope and society will always slide not-so-gracefully down it.
Do you recall the Kermit Gosnell trial? You know, the abortion doctor out of West Philly that would behead infants and then keep their feet in a jar? (http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2013/12/17/kermit-gosnel-sentenced_n_4459038.html, https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=JZmoj1vjfAw) Yeah, him. Did you find this story disturbing?? Gosnell was convicted, but only for being ahead of his time. His balance was off and he fell down the slippery slope before the rest of society, and I pray we never catch up.
We need to weed out evil before it takes over.
“This day I call the heavens and the earth as witnesses against you that I have set before you life and death, blessings and curses. Now choose life, so that you and your children may live.” ~Deuteronomy 30:19